Dictionary.com defines change as the following:
verb (used with object), changed, changing.
To make the form, nature, content, future course, etc., of (something)
different from what it is or from what it would be if left alone:
To change one’s name; to change one’s opinion;
To change the course of history.
What a simple, easy to understand, straight to the point definition. And yet, as simple as it is to understand, why then do we humans have so much trouble implementing change into our own lives?
I’m not talking about changing the tires on your car, or, the vacuum bag, or your little human’s diapers; although some of these things are dull, taxing, or unpleasant. I’m talking about real change. Meaningful life-altering change.
Four years ago I found myself in a terrible position. I was stuck in a dead end job with no further room for growth. I wasn’t learning any new skills or even really developing my current skill set. The monetary compensation was less than adequate, and I was oh, so very bored. I can look at that time now and easily identify these symptoms for what they were: I was stuck. I needed a career transplant.
I was trapped in this Grand Canyon-sized rut where it became easier to do nothing than to fix my situation. I had absolutely no idea how to get out of it. I was walled in and (thought) I didn’t have the tools to get myself out.
But everyone has a boiling point, don’t they? Everyone will eventually find themselves in a position where change becomes inevitable. And sometimes, all it takes to initiate that change is a little luck, a little timing, and a little pro-activity. Jamie, a co-worker of mine at the time, knew of my struggles with the daily grind and had often been a sounding board for me when I had to let off steam. Jamie turned out to be the husband of my current employer, the incomparable Jen Wright.
Taking action, finally
Combine the fact I had recently returned to high school to obtain my diploma after a 17 year hiatus (that’s a change story for another time) with an increasing difference of opinion on certain matters with some of my co-workers led to me investigate a suggested employment agency here in the city. I set up the appointment to meet with someone in a fancy downtown office; I took their online office skills test, and went for the follow up meeting on a Friday after work. I was told that they would be in touch with me and that was that.
It was the following Monday when Jamie stepped into my office and said to me. “Jenny is looking to hire an office manager, are you interested?” Boom. All of a sudden, I had a lifeline. It was like Regis had just given me an extra phone a friend and I was about to become a millionaire.
The next week when the employment agency called, I happily told them I had found what I was looking for and that their services would not be needed.
I don’t normally put a lot of stock in Karma or that kind of thing, but I can honestly tell you that I believe the only reason that the offer came my way was because I had taken the first step and had unknowingly asked the universe to give me the change I needed.
The reason people have trouble with change is because, not surprisingly, it’s really hard.
It’s like jumping into a lake you’ve never swam in before.
You know that moment when you’re standing on the dock, imagining all the hideous and murderous monsters that are right now swimming just below the surface? That’s how change can feel. Scary. Scary, slimy and covered in murder-y scales.
Change is difficult for me because I like things to be consistent.
Everything in their place and all that. The big win for me was learning to realize that things were broken and out of place. It took me a long time, but I did it.
When I finally realized that I couldn’t keep doing things the way I’d been doing them, the universe responded with a giant “Well it’s about time. Here, take this happiness and meaning. Have a good day” and vaporized all the sea mutants waiting below the surface.
So yes, change is difficult. But is it essential to survival? Yes. Is it one of the keys to happiness? Probably. Have and will I continue to look for opportunities to evolve? Certainly.
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Pat Moore is the office manager at Whole Therapy. Pat works alongside a team of dedicated professionals and is here to help ensure that your visit at Whole Therapy is as pleasant as possible. For more about Pat, click here!