Self Compassion: How To Find It & Why We Need It
Emotional resiliency. We now know that one of emotional resiliency’s most foundational elements is having learned self compassion as a child. A whole generation grew up with the drum beat of self-esteem. Parents, teachers, all preaching self-esteem. But that is a shaky pedestal to stand on. It depends entirely on…
Pick A Thought, Any Thought
I love the idea that we get to choose our results. Sometimes, in moments of frustration or continued failure, it’s easy to blame other people, or circumstances, or the Universe on the results we’re getting (or not getting), but really it all comes down to our thoughts and feelings. What…
Choose Your Own Adventure
On this day, one year ago, I got bangs. I remember it vividly because it felt like a portend of positivity; a fresh start, a little bit of newness. I felt good. Ironically, the following day we shut the clinics, the city, the world, down. (Should I have just stuck…
I have a body (When ‘I love myself’ is not accessible)
If you’ve ever stood in front of a mirror and thought, “ugh” or worse, I see you. I’ve struggled with weight, body image and self-love for most of my 38 years. It’s interesting to me, especially lately as I’m delving into managing my emotions better, that it actually doesn’t matter…
Our Belief System & The Ways We Hold Ourselves Back
Limiting beliefs. You and I and everyone else have them to some degree but we’re often not consciously aware of them. As a result, we’re hamstrung in our search for happy, meaningful lives free of trauma, self-doubt and self-sabotage. The following limiting beliefs checklist can be eye opening. I often…
Leaning In To Your Feels
Currently, it’s February in Ottawa and EVERYTHING IS AWESOME. The canal is open, friends! I freaking LOVE skating. My kids are so excited to be back in school! I’m really excited to crush this week. Wait. No. NOPE. It’s February in Ottawa and we are in the middle of a…
How should I think about pain?
The way you think about and respond to pain and discomfort in your body can make a big difference in how long it sticks around. A lot of my clients come in with pain in their body. Low back aching, tension in the neck and shoulders, sore feet and legs,…
When Thoughts Take Over: A dialogue with my head
Something I’ve learned over the years is: If I’m feeling it/thinking it/doing it, then others must be, too. So here’s my honest train of thought this morning before and during my spin class, and how I got over my negative self-talk and won the day. 6am. My alarm buzzes on…