Tag: EFT

June 19, 2019

Test and Exam Anxiety:  At this time of year many students experience distressing feelings of jitteriness, clenching sensations in the gut, self-doubt and dread; ranging all the way to outright panic. The blood flow begins to be diverted from the logical thinking parts of the brain to the survival centers managing fight, flight or freeze. As the exam performance parts of the brain experience reduced blood flow,  functional intelligence, the ability to efficiently use that intelligence is diminished. Making us feel even more panicky.

What can I do to make it go away? In my practice I’ve found Emotional Freedom Techniques including Picture Tapping to be so effective in this situation that I warranty the results. Let’s look at what’s going on and how these tools can be so beneficial. Some of the processes involved also include the dominant part of the brain getting tunnel vision, saying “I’ve got it, I’ve got it” while forgetting to use the resources of the other half of the brain. Ideally the two halves of talk to each other through that telephone exchange in the middle of the brain. It’s rather like an Ethernet cable connecting two computers so each is more powerful as part a team than on its own.

Why is this all happening? It’s estimated that ninety five percent of all thoughts are heavily influenced by the subconscious mind. From the time you’re born, the subconscious mind is processing and storing over a million times as many data points as the conscious brain at any given time and our core beliefs are established by the age of six; whether we recognize them or not. Every fleeting facial expression, body language or words overheard in any context have been analyzed and stored for future use. In this case, programming reactions for whatever might come in the future.

In this case the subconscious mind is putting together all the various data points it’s stored that it thinks are somehow relevant to test or exam time. It’s doing the very best it thinks it knows how, to keep you safe.

Fortunately over four hundred published studies including a meta-analysis by the world famous Cochrane Review have shown how combining sensory, cognitive and emotional inputs using Emotional Freedom Techniques can safely and effectively allow us to re-write the earlier programming causing the current distress. Every “feeling” is attached to a belief. Taking one small safe piece at a time of worrisome feelings and bringing it into the light of the day, allows the conscious and subconscious minds to re-examine and re-process the whole story in the current moment. In the meantime, tapping  on certain acupressure points during this process keeps the part of the brain responsible for anxiety and panic too busy assessing and re-assessing those inputs to have time to jump in and hit the panic buttons.

Battling yourself is exhausting. Learning to collaborate with every part of your mind is freeing.

Some may be able to talk themselves down, use meditation, eat well, exercise, get enough sleep  or cram. Others could do with a helping hand.

If this is you, you’re invited to drop by Whole Therapy for a Health Pass. This allows you to have an initial interview and assessment with our Integrative Therapist David Gilbert without the usual eighty dollar + HST fee. His work is so powerful we guarantee it. He may also be reached directly @ 613-747-5458.

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April 19, 2018

Somewhere in this world might be a child who had perfect parents and unbelievably good luck.  Always nurtured, never feeling insecure or threatened.  The other 99.9999% of us haven’t been so lucky.  The degree to which we are unlucky can have profound effects and cause a constant cycle of failed relationships and self-sabotage. But there is hope for those who’ve been trapped in these patterns.

Young children react to perceived threats to relationship security in one of two ways.  Of course, the degree of intensity to these reactions varies hugely from person to person and environment to environment.  For some, the subconscious assumes it needs to hang on for dear life lest they be abandoned.  As adults, the attachment style when they fall for someone is rapid bonding, becoming clingy, insecure and needy. Making the other person feel responsible for their security and happiness. This is hugely destructive and tends to drive our partner away.

The scent of desperation is not an aphrodisiac. In some cases, it’s even worse.  We become co-dependent.  This is a dead-end trap because but no one else can make us feel secure when it doesn’t match our subconscious programming.

For those with the opposite attachment style, the subconscious says “I’m not getting my emotional security needs met so I’m on my own”.  As adults, when the inevitable relationship challenges or misunderstandings occur, their tendency is to shut down or cut and run.

Most of us will have some degree of one or the other tendencies but when they’re deeply rooted and powerful we can find relationship after relationship following the same sad and frustrating patterns.

This is where energy psychology (Emotional Freedom Techniques and PTT) come in.  An experienced and skilled EFT therapist will create a safe place and set of tools to allow the subconscious and conscious minds to collaborate.  Piece by piece bringing underlying thoughts and feeling feelings into the light of day.  There to be re-examined in that safe environment.

Allowing clients to quite painlessly and typically surprisingly quickly, remove the emotional power from each of the negative memories or maladaptive beliefs causing such havoc in their lives.

The following is a graphic example.  A woman was referred to me because all her life she’d felt physically and emotionally disconnected; as though she was living behind a thick glass wall.  We started with the feelings she was experiencing right that moment before beginning our 1 st session.  We then followed the trail of thoughts and feelings her subconscious felt safe revealing.

She was progressing quite rapidly then during one session she suddenly experienced an intense body memory.  She could feel her hands holding bars. Of course, scientists now know memories are stored in the body as well as the brain.  Once again we used EFT to remove the uncomfortable power of her body memory.  She then had a mental picture of standing in her crib as a little child looking at her parents sleeping in the dark. When asked what she was feeling, the answer was “unnoticed and unimportant”.  This felt painfully intense but we continued to use the EFT acupressure points while staying focused.

Step by step, the feeling faded away until there was nothing left of it.  At that point, for the first time in her living memory, she felt free to connect with the world and people around her.  Her subconscious mind now understood it was safe to do so.  These techniques hadn’t papered over her feelings.  The brain had actually re consolidated new understanding and perception.  The initial subconscious programming associated with that emotionally traumatic experience had been entirely re-written; not over-written.

Clients tend to say “that darned subconscious mind” but the subconscious mind’s just trying to keep us safe the best way it thinks it knows how; given the programming it’s received since birth.  It’s always doing its best to be your best friend and helper. EFT and PTT provide safe, simple tools to help it do a better job.

Yours in good emotional health.