August 6, 2015




We all fail. It’s a constant in life. But what we do after we fail is what defines us.

A few weekends ago I competed in a Powerlifting meet. I felt that it didn’t go so well because I had worked so hard at the gym and the numbers I put up on the platform didn’t reflect everything I had achieved in the gym over the past year.

It would be easy to sit here and make excuses for why things didn’t go my way, but I won’t. I’m not saying that I didn’t analyze every single detail, because I did, BUT I refuse to allow any of those to become my excuse for a poor performance.

In reality, my head wasn’t in it.

Often when we fail, it’s about what we have told ourselves: We have told ourselves that we aren’t good enough, or that we’ll never do what we set out to do. Those little tiny thoughts (though unspoken to anyone but ourselves) are our destroyers. One little tiny thought plants the seed of failure and it grows exponentially.

It’s like a weed: once the failure mindset takes root, it is hell to get rid of.

So, how do we deal with it? I’m sure there are a variety of ways, but I can tell you how not to deal with it: don’t go into a meet with a failure mindset. I just let those negative thoughts run wild through my head and it showed.

If you saw the video: watch closely, you can see the doubt on my face.

So, I am trying now. I had wanted to give up on the gym, stop training for a week, get my head on straight, relax, do nothing. You know what? I couldn’t. I missed one day of training (mostly because I couldn’t move), then I had to go back, because I missed it already.

My body knew what my head wouldn’t admit: that I have the physical capability to do anything I set my mind to doing.

I’m going back and fixing the problems I had that weekend. I want to do better. I will not let this failure win.


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In short, failure lit a little fire under my butt. I don’t know if I will compete again, and if I do, I don’t know when that will be, I just know that what I did on that platform is not the end of me.

I won’t let my failure define me. It’s what I do after that counts.


Melissa Beals is an RMT with Whole Therapy. Melissa works extensively with athletes of all levels with a goal in mind to increase their athletic performance through education and understanding of their bodies. See more about Melissa here.


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